I don’t think I have ever felt as alone as I feel right now. Growing up makes me realize how few friends I have and how shallow adult friendships are. I can’t even count the number of sleepless nights full of tears and pain I have to this day because of this.

I hear a lot on social media about “being alone but not lonely,” and I honestly don’t know what I think about it. I am aware that, at the end of the day, we are on our own. But what I see about this trend is that it is made out of necessity and not out of desire.

It’s never our dream to spend our lives alone. We were created social beings. The desire to have people around us is engraved in our beings. The issue is that our society is becoming more and more individualist. We are losing that instinct to connect with others, and this is being pushed more and more upon us by society, and by social media.

Because of this and by necessity, we must learn, as feminine women, how to embrace being alone. That doesn’t mean that we cannot connect with others. It simply means that we have to be completely comfortable with ourselves and not rely on others to make us feel fulfilled.

Feminine women today have to learn how to feel complete with themselves. It is a hard but beautiful process. We have to learn how to embrace our bodies, embrace the stage of life where we are, embrace our struggles and embrace the journey of becoming the woman we want to be.

The love you desire, you must first give it to yourself. The faithfulness, commitment, time, understanding and trust you want from others, give it to yourself first. Fill your cup first.

This lesson is probably one of the hardest pills I ever had to swallow still today. When I tell you it’s hard, I mean it from the bottom of my heart! But I look at it as an opportunity for growth, and I invite you to do the same. Don’t avoid working on embracing your solitude. Denial of today’s reality never led anyone anywhere.