- Starting a journey into becoming the best version of ourselves sounds really exiting, but if we don’t start the right way, it can soon become a stressful, discouraging and difficult journey. Believe me, I’m the living proof of this.
How do we start then?
- I’ve attempted this adventure numerous times and failed numerous times too. But those failures thought me the do’s and don’ts of such journeys.
- The first thing I’d say is to take a notebook or journal and a pen and write down all the goals you ever wanted to achieve.
Then chose among them, 3 main goals to focus on.
Girl, I know you want to work on all of them at once but I promise you, it’s a really really bad Idea. It’s hard to implement multiple new habits into your life and stay consistent.
But don’t worry you’ll work on the other ones once you have achieved the 3 first or you are on a good way to do so. - What’s next?
- Now what I did is that I divided each of these goals into tiny realistic goals. Let’s say for example that my goal is to become a more social person. I’d divide this goal like so: start smiling more, say hi to at least one person every time I go to work, have at least one conversation with someone I don’t talk to often every week… and so on.
Now the « fun » part!
- Ok so the fun/not so fun part is to schedule those baby goals. Give yourself deadlines and stick to them.
If you don’t get where you wanted to be by that date, don’t be to hard on yourself. It just means your deadline wasn’t realistic. Simply re-do your schedule and make it more realistic.
One thing I prefer doing when it comes to scheduling my baby goals, is to give myself a little bit more time than what I think I‘d need to realize them.
I don’t specially like the scheduling part of this journey because it takes a while, but that’s one critical step I kept neglecting and it caused me to often give up. So do it sis!
Finally my little secret…
- There is one thing I established in my daily life that changed everything and helped me keep pushing myself, and that is… journaling!
I used to hate writing so much (ironic I know) but my mother constantly urged me do it. Now I know why she insisted on me to do it, and I’m grateful she did.
I’ll probably talk more about journaling on another blog post, but don’t skip this step! You’ll thank me later.